I feel acceptance is love and love is God’s will for us.
From the book Daily Reflections
Copyright © 1990 by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.
John C. was a burly curmudgeon of a man, a retired plumber, who raised five sons. On the calmest of days, he was an exploding firecracker with the power of a bomb. Hours after he discovered that his wife of over 30 years was having an affair with someone half her age, John’s hands were twisting the guys’ neck at the younger man’s place of work. Fortunately, the warring sides did not suffer permanent or significant injuries, and John’s friends bailed him out of jail the next day.
Beyond his bigger-than-life explosive personality was the purr behind the roar.
It’s all about love.
That was one of John’s favorite sayings. And, sure enough, beneath John’s crusty exterior was his willingness to help others, whether providing rides or lending a few bucks, that was his way. In the 20-plus years that I grew to know and love him, on numerous occasions, he provided a non-judgmental listening ear and never broke a confidence.
Though John is gone, his legacy of words also imprints my mind. Sometimes I hear them when I least expect them, at times and with people that really do a 180 degree turn on any sort of compassion.
I found out about the venom-tongued woman who spat her unkind words at my son and helped pave the way to his final chapter.
It’s all about love, and I know HURT PEOPLE HURT
I heard that Landlord Joey wouldn’t budge and return my son’s security deposit money when my son desperately need to break the house’s least because he was despairing, isolated and lonely.
It’s all about love, and I remember the grit and courage of my 25-year-old daughter, a sister with a dead brother, interceding on her grieving mother’s behalf in an attempt to get the security deposit returned to us. No, the landlord denied the request, but she was a testimony of when one steps up to the plate.
Coroner Mary called me with the news that no mother should ever hear and, also, implied that I was responsible for my son’s death.
It’s all about love, and my dearest friend, spiritual sister Pat never left my side from the time of that horrific call to this very day as she travels alongside me and puts up with my tears, fears, anguish, anger, secular notions and sometimes plain nonsense.
The sheriff dropped the ball on helping me find the whereabouts of my son’s missing fave jacket and laptop computer.
I’s all about love, and the two young adults whom I had never met before in my life never dropped the ball helping us pack and sort through my son’s belongings.
Last, and probably most painful, his father showing up to see my son’s dead body after a nine-year absence in his life.
It’s all about love, and like I said earlier, HURT PEOPLE HURT
Now, in the national news the senseless death of George Floyd in which my heart goes out to Mr. Floyd’s family and friends.
It’s all about love, and I can reasonably assume that none of the police officers involved in the hideous crime sought to do God’s will anytime earlier that day.
In fact, I’d wager to say that the venom-tongued woman, Landlord Joey, Coroner Mary, the Sheriff and my son’s father didn’t ask for God’s will before they willfully said and/or did what they did and or/said.
And, I accept everything just for today because “acceptance is love and love is God’s will for us.”
And for today I select to walk the simple path as described so poignantly below by Saint Teresa of Calcutta. When I venture on this path, there is no stress, because there are no constrains or requirements.
The simple path: silence is prayer, prayer is faith, faith is love, love is service, the fruit of service is peace.
~ Mother Teresa, Founder of the Missionaries of Charity